There are several reasons why Mom Toma doesn’t allow baby Tilly to play freely with her older sister, Ariaan, even though she loves seeing her daughters bond. From the outside, it may seem strict or overly cautious, but Toma’s concerns come from a place of experience, observation, and the desire to keep both girls safe and emotionally secure.
First, Ariaan is still very young herself. Although she’s older than Tilly, she is still learning how to manage her own strength, impulses, and emotions. Ariaan loves her little sister deeply, but her excitement sometimes comes out through rough hugs, sudden movements, or playful actions that aren’t safe for a baby. Toma has seen moments where Ariaan tries to pick Tilly up without support or pulls toys too quickly from her hands. To prevent accidental harm, she supervises all their interactions closely.
Second, baby Tilly is at a delicate developmental stage. Her neck, motor skills, and sense of balance are still forming. Even a small bump or fall can be dangerous. Toma doesn’t want to discourage the sibling bond, but she knows that a baby’s environment must be controlled and gentle. Ariaan, with her energetic personality, sometimes forgets that Tilly doesn’t understand the rules of play yet.
Another reason is emotional development. Toma wants both girls to feel valued and understood. When Ariaan plays with Tilly, she can sometimes become possessive or frustrated if the baby doesn’t respond the way she expects. Tilly, on the other hand, may become overstimulated or scared. By limiting their unsupervised play, Toma gives herself the chance to guide Ariaan on how to be gentle, patient, and responsible with her baby sister. This helps Ariaan grow into a caring older sibling rather than feeling constantly corrected or blamed.
Lastly, Toma knows that time will naturally solve many of these issues. As Tilly grows more stable, aware, and interactive, and as Ariaan matures emotionally, the girls will be able to play together safely and joyfully. For now, Toma chooses caution over risk, structure over chaos, and guidance over assumptions.
In the end, Toma’s decision is not about keeping the sisters apart, but about ensuring that their relationship grows in a healthy, safe, and loving way—one step at a time.
